MDEV-21298: mariabackup doesn't read from the [mariadbd] and [mariadbd-X.Y]
server option groups from configuration files
MDEV-21301: mariabackup doesn't read [mariadb-backup] option group in
configuration file

All three issues require to change the same code, that is why their
fixes are joined in one commit.

The fix is in invoking load_defaults_or_exit() and handle_options() for
backup-specific groups separately from client-server groups to let the last
handle_options() call fail on unknown backup-specific options.

The option values from backup-specific groups can overwrite option
values from client-server groups.

The MTR tests which contained not supported options are also fixed.