MDEV-22370 safe_mutex: Trying to lock uninitialized mutex at /data/src/10.4-bug/sql/rpl_parallel.cc, line 470 upon shutdown during FTWRL

Problem:- When we issue FTWRL with shutdown in parallel, there is race between
FTWRL and shutdown. Shutdown might destroy the mutex (pool->LOCK_rpl_thread_pool)
before FTWRL can lock it. So we can get crash on FTWRL thread

Solution:- mysql_mutex_destroy(pool->LOCK_rpl_thread_pool) should wait for
FTWRL thread to complete its work , and then destroy.
So slave_prepare_for_shutdown will just deactivate the pool, and mutex is destroyed
later in end_slave()