Remove race situations that occur when removing pidfiles. Primarily each process should remove its own
pidfile, secondly it should be removed by the process that created it and _only_ if it's
certain the process is dead. Third, mysql-test-run.pl will remove the pidfile when process has been killed.
- Set state of an instance to STARTING _before_ calling instance->start()
- Check that pidfile of instance has been created before changing STARTING => STARTED
- Only remove the pidfile if IM kills an instance with SIGKILL, otherwise the instance will remove it itself