Fix spider init bugs (MDEV-22979, MDEV-27233, MDEV-28218) while
preventing regression on old ones (MDEV-30370, MDEV-29904)

Two things are changed:

First, Spider initialisation is made fully synchronous, i.e. it no
longer happens in a background thread. Adapted from the original fix
by nayuta for MDEV-27233. This change itself would cause failure when
spider is initialised early, by plugin-load-add, due to dependency on
Aria and udf function creation, which are fixed in the second and
third parts below. Requires SQL Service, thus porting earlier versions
requires MDEV-27595

Second, if spider is initialised before udf_init(), create udf by
inserting into `mysql.func`, otherwise do it by `CREATE FUNCTION` as
usual. This change may be generalised in MDEV-31401.

Also factor out some clean-up queries from deinit_spider.inc for use
of spider init tests.

A minor caveat is that early spider initialisation will fail if the
server is bootstrapped for the first time, due to missing `mysql`
database which needs to be created by the bootstrap script.