Return FAILED from eh_ routines if command(s) is(are) not completed

There were scenarios where we may have returned from the error
handlers prior to all affected commands being flushed to the midlayer.
Add changes to ensure this doesn't happen.
Signed-off-by: James Smart <James.Smart@emulex.com>
Signed-off-by: James Bottomley <James.Bottomley@SteelEye.com>