Under high contention dst_entry::__refcnt becomes a significant bottleneck.

atomic_inc_not_zero() is implemented with a cmpxchg() loop, which goes into
high retry rates on contention.

Switch the reference count to rcuref_t which results in a significant
performance gain. Rename the reference count member to __rcuref to reflect
the change.

The gain depends on the micro-architecture and the number of concurrent
operations and has been measured in the range of +25% to +130% with a
localhost memtier/memcached benchmark which amplifies the problem
massively.

Running the memtier/memcached benchmark over a real (1Gb) network
connection the conversion on top of the false sharing fix for struct
dst_entry::__refcnt results in a total gain in the 2%-5% range over the
upstream baseline.
Reported-by: Wangyang Guo <wangyang.guo@intel.com>
Reported-by: Arjan Van De Ven <arjan.van.de.ven@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Thomas Gleixner <tglx@linutronix.de>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230307125538.989175656@linutronix.de
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20230323102800.215027837@linutronix.deSigned-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>