Define new option in 'rdma_set_option' to override calculated QP timeout
when requested to provide QP attributes to modify a QP.

At the same time, pack tos_set to be bitfield.
Signed-off-by: Danit Goldberg <danitg@mellanox.com>
Reviewed-by: Moni Shoua <monis@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Leon Romanovsky <leonro@mellanox.com>
Reviewed-by: Parav Pandit <parav@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@mellanox.com>