Ulrich found another small detail wrt. POSIX requirements for threads -
this time it's the recursion features (read-held lock being write-locked
means an upgrade if the same 'process' is the owner, means a deadlock if a
different 'process').

this requirement even makes some sense - the group of threads who own a
lock really own all rights to the lock as well.

These changes fix this, all testcases pass now.  (inter-process
testcases as well, which are not affected by this patch.)

(SIGURG and SIGIO semantics should also continue to work - there's some
more stuff we can optimize with the new pidhash in this area, but that's
for later.)