This splits btree_iter into two components: btree_iter is now the
externally visible componont, and it points to a btree_path which is now
reference counted.

This means we no longer have to clone iterators up front if they might
be mutated - btree_path can be shared by multiple iterators, and cloned
if an iterator would mutate a shared btree_path. This will help us use
iterators more efficiently, as well as slimming down the main long lived
state in btree_trans, and significantly cleans up the logic for iterator
lifetimes.
Signed-off-by: Kent Overstreet <kent.overstreet@linux.dev>