Now that the SRCU stuff has been removed the entire MR destroy logic can
be made a lot simpler. Currently there are many different ways to destroy a
MR and it makes it really hard to do this task correctly. Route all
destruction through mlx5_ib_dereg_mr() and make it work for all
situations.

Since it turns out all the different MR types do basically the same thing
this removes a lot of knowledge of MR internals from ODP and leaves ODP
just exporting an operation to clean up children.

This fixes a few weird corner cases bugs and firmly uses the correct
ordering of the MR destruction:
 - Stop parallel access to the mkey via the ODP xarray
 - Stop DMA
 - Release the umem
 - Clean up ODP children
 - Free/Recycle the MR

Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20210304120745.1090751-4-leon@kernel.orgSigned-off-by: Leon Romanovsky <leonro@nvidia.com>
Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@nvidia.com>