This patch fixes:

- MDEV-19284 INSTANT ALTER with ucs2-to-utf16 conversion produces bad data
- MDEV-19285 INSTANT ALTER from ascii_general_ci to latin1_general_ci produces corrupt data

These regressions were introduced in 10.4.3 by:
- MDEV-15564 Avoid table rebuild in ALTER TABLE on collation or charset changes

Changes:

1. Cleanup: Adding a helper method
   Field_longstr::csinfo_change_allows_instant_alter(),
   to remove some duplicate code in field.cc.

2. Cleanup: removing Type_handler::Charsets_are_compatible() and static
   function charsets_are_compatible() and
   introducing new methods in the recently added class Charset instead:
   - encoding_allows_reinterpret_as()
   - encoding_and_order_allow_reinterpret_as()

3. Bug fix: Removing the code that allowed instant conversion for
   ascii-to->8bit and ucs2-to->utf16.
   This actually fixes MDEV-19284 and MDEV-19285.

4. Bug fix: Adding a helper method Charset::collation_specific_name().
   The old corresponding code in Type_handler::Charsets_are_compatible()
   was not safe against (badly named) user-defined collations whose
   character set name can be longer than collation name.