The effect was that that ROOT_FLAG_THREAD_SPECIFIC was cleared and
the memory allocated by memroot would be contributed the the system,
not to the thread.

This exposed a bug in how "show explain for ..." allocated data.
- The thread that did provide the explain allocated data in the
  "show explain" threads mem_root, which is marked as THREAD_SPECIFIC.
- Fixed by allocating the explain data in a temporary explain_mem_root
  which is not THREAD_SPECIFIC.

Other things:
- Added extra checks when using update_malloc_size()
- Do not call update_malloc_size() for memory not registered with
  update_malloc_size(). This avoid some wrong 'memory not freed' reports.
- Added a checking of 'thd->killed' to ensure that
  main.truncate_notembedded.test still works.

Reported by: Yury Chaikou