MDEV-21943 reduce the binary tarball size

in mysql_release builds only build embedded for rpm and deb
but not for bintar

cmake/build_configurations/mysql_release.cmake

@@ -63,9 +63,6 @@ IF(FEATURE_SET)
     SET(WITH_NONE ON)
   ENDIF()
   
-  IF(num GREATER FEATURE_SET_xsmall AND NOT WIN32)
-    SET(WITH_EMBEDDED_SERVER ON CACHE BOOL "")
-  ENDIF()
   IF(num GREATER FEATURE_SET_small)
     SET(PLUGIN_ARCHIVE "STATIC")
     SET(PLUGIN_BLACKHOLE "STATIC")
@@ -98,12 +95,14 @@ ELSEIF(RPM)
   SET(CHECKMODULE /usr/bin/checkmodule CACHE FILEPATH "")
   SET(SEMODULE_PACKAGE /usr/bin/semodule_package CACHE FILEPATH "")
   SET(PLUGIN_AUTH_SOCKET YES CACHE STRING "")
+  SET(WITH_EMBEDDED_SERVER ON CACHE BOOL "")
 ELSEIF(DEB)
   SET(WITH_SSL system CACHE STRING "")
   SET(WITH_ZLIB system CACHE STRING "")
   SET(WITH_LIBWRAP ON)
   SET(HAVE_EMBEDDED_PRIVILEGE_CONTROL ON)
   SET(PLUGIN_AUTH_SOCKET YES CACHE STRING "")
+  SET(WITH_EMBEDDED_SERVER ON CACHE BOOL "")
 ELSE()
   SET(WITH_SSL bundled CACHE STRING "")
   SET(WITH_ZLIB bundled CACHE STRING "")