Fixed slow bootstrap introduced in 10.6

The problem was that the signal thread was not killed when using
unireg_abort().

The bug was introduced by:
MDEV-30260: Slave crashed:reload_acl_and_cache during shutdown

Other things fixed:
- Don't produce memory leaks with safemalloc if all threads was not
  ended properly (not useful)

include/my_sys.h

@@ -153,7 +153,7 @@ char *guess_malloc_library();
 void sf_report_leaked_memory(my_thread_id id);
 int sf_sanity();
 extern my_thread_id (*sf_malloc_dbug_id)(void);
-#define SAFEMALLOC_REPORT_MEMORY(X) sf_report_leaked_memory(X)
+#define SAFEMALLOC_REPORT_MEMORY(X) if (!sf_leaking_memory) sf_report_leaked_memory(X)
 #else
 #define SAFEMALLOC_REPORT_MEMORY(X) do {} while(0)
 #endif

mysys/my_thr_init.c

@@ -220,7 +220,11 @@ void my_thread_global_end(void)
         fprintf(stderr,
                 "Error in my_thread_global_end(): %d threads didn't exit\n",
                 THR_thread_count);
-#endif
+#endif /* HAVE_PTHREAD_KILL */
+#ifdef SAFEMALLOC
+      /* We know we will have memoryleaks, suppress the leak report */
+      sf_leaking_memory= 1;
+#endif /* SAFEMALLOC */
       all_threads_killed= 0;
       break;
     }
@@ -234,9 +238,7 @@ void my_thread_global_end(void)
     that could use them.
   */
   if (all_threads_killed)
-  {
     my_thread_destroy_internal_mutex();
-  }
   my_thread_global_init_done= 0;
 }
 

sql/mysqld.cc

@@ -1889,6 +1889,7 @@ extern "C" void unireg_abort(int exit_code)
   wsrep_sst_auth_free();
 #endif // WITH_WSREP
 
+  wait_for_signal_thread_to_end();
   clean_up(!opt_abort && (exit_code || !opt_bootstrap)); /* purecov: inspected */
   DBUG_PRINT("quit",("done with cleanup in unireg_abort"));
   mysqld_exit(exit_code);